For some people, Christmas is the highlight of the year.

The matching pyjamas, the carols in church and the mulled wine with friends – it sounds idyllic. The pressure is building for people to 'make up' for last Christmas by going big.

For many though, Christmas is a stressful time that they just about hobble through and after talking to people in this position, I thought I might put together some ideas for self-care during the festive season.

1. Make time for your wellbeing every day

You don't have to be ace at yoga and getting your feet behind your ears to engage in something that will boost or nurture your mental health each day.

A guided relaxation track free on Youtube, going for a walk along the beach or deep breathing in a bubble bath can all help us relax, ground ourselves and leave us feeling more able to deal with challenging times ahead.

Even just starting the day with a cup of tea in the garden thinking of five things we are grateful for can have a significant impact on our wellbeing. This space for yourself is so important – whether you are alone or surrounded by so many people you feel overwhelmed or burnt out.

If you need to turn down some social engagements to choose rest instead, then do. If you feel you have to visit others then keep in mind YOUR needs as well as theirs. This may mean a shorter visit, meeting halfway or each person bringing a dish to share rather than you cooking yet more turkey.

2. Reduce the pressure financially

Does anyone really NEED all the STUFF we feel compelled to buy? Can you declare a truce on buying adult gifts in your family or do a funny secret Santa game instead? Perhaps think about setting a limit for each person in a friend group?

Those who care about you will understand that money is tight for many and may very well be grateful to save money themselves. It is hard as an adult to admit things are difficult financially, but please know, many people, from all walks of life have struggled in the last 18 months and more will as the cost of living continues to increase.

It really is true that the best memories can be made for free. Carol singing, looking at the stars with a hot chocolate in the garden, an evening walk to see all the twinkling, festive shop windows, snuggling up with one of the many versions of 'A Christmas Carol' are the things that most remember fondly about Christmas. Let's take a step back and see what magic we can re-ignite without our wallets taking a hit.

3. Give back

If you are feeling overwhelmed or lonely, perhaps you may consider helping others at this time of year to give yourself a positive focus?

Have a clear out for the charity shops, offer to help serve a Christmas Day lunch or help make up food parcels at a foodbank – giving back doesn't have to cost us money and can give us that warm fuzzy feeling inside, feeling valued and needed.

Showing kindness to others is key for our own mental wellbeing! To find out more about how powerful 'giving back' is – have a look at MIND's website at the 5 ways to wellbeing.

Remember if you or someone you know of, is struggling over Christmas, there is always someone to listen at The Samaritans. Sometimes talking through a situation or feeling to someone you don't know can really help. You can call them day or night, on 116 123.